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Doula Tea Talks: Amplifying Doula Voice
What is a doula?
I have heard this question many times.
I have seen/read definitions on social media platforms.
I have been imprinted by "concepts" of doula instead of doulas themselves.
I am a doula.
Navigating that.
I want to offer conversations - faces - voices to the collective.
.
Birth doulas are beginning to be known....so are postpartum doulas......but there are many other doulas.
A doula is a person whom serves others in support while that individual is crossing a threshold: i.e. support through a life transition.
It is impossible to short list what a person as a Doula provides.
Because of this - the doula voice is unique.
The doula voice is valuable.
The doula voice is formed by real life transitions - all the layers, fragments, and shifts - doula's standing witness to them - and supporting the individual whom is/are living them.
The doula voice is built from the "tough bits" the REAL bits. The bits that need support and require normalizing, non-judgment, and validation.
The doula voice is universal.
It knows no limitations of person or experience.
.
I want to build the collective concept of what doula is.
I believe a collective is as strong as the voices shared within it.
Many collectives are missing voices.
I am a doula - asking other doulas to come share their voice.
I have heard this question many times.
I have seen/read definitions on social media platforms.
I have been imprinted by "concepts" of doula instead of doulas themselves.
I am a doula.
Navigating that.
I want to offer conversations - faces - voices to the collective.
.
Birth doulas are beginning to be known....so are postpartum doulas......but there are many other doulas.
A doula is a person whom serves others in support while that individual is crossing a threshold: i.e. support through a life transition.
It is impossible to short list what a person as a Doula provides.
Because of this - the doula voice is unique.
The doula voice is valuable.
The doula voice is formed by real life transitions - all the layers, fragments, and shifts - doula's standing witness to them - and supporting the individual whom is/are living them.
The doula voice is built from the "tough bits" the REAL bits. The bits that need support and require normalizing, non-judgment, and validation.
The doula voice is universal.
It knows no limitations of person or experience.
.
I want to build the collective concept of what doula is.
I believe a collective is as strong as the voices shared within it.
Many collectives are missing voices.
I am a doula - asking other doulas to come share their voice.
Why Tea?
I deeply appreciate tea. I love mixing it, the history and power of herbal medicinals, the conversations over cups of tea, the nourishment of warmth and how it feels when receiving a cup of tea into the body.
Tea for me is mind and body soul care: Nourishment.
Doulas aim to nourish those they serve.
Therefore in my mind....
Doulas are Tea.
The Moon ~ Tea ~ Doula Voice
I appreciate staying connected to the sky above me and seeking its guidance.
I have organized the tea talks around the lunar cycles.
I am asking doulas to speak with me on the new moon and full moon.
Candid, truth speak conversations - sharing their voice.
A COLLECTIVE: disease in boundaries
I believe a true collective amplifies differences.
That can be extremely triggering.
Differences challenge persons boundaries - so let's take a few breaths and look and boundaries.
BOUNDARIES are limitless
Whaaaaaatttt?
Stay with me.
Everyone has their own boundaries. A boundary is formed from life experiences - beliefs- information absorption - and yes...a boundary is rooted in judgment - and therefore is limitless to the individual whom is building their boundaries.
Boundaries become realities as the person embodies them.
Some boundaries are physical - some are mental.
Boundaries are a constant negotiation. They can change. They can evolve.
Boundaries are incredibly hard to understand and therefore for "uphold" as a boundary itself is build in a very evolving-life-dependant-personal-experience-way.
YIKES
Boundaries are important.
Being open to understanding boundaries as confusing - can be helpful.
Respecting boundaries is a necessity.
So is: building them, voicing your own, listening to others build them, appreciating their purpose, knowing the boundaries may change and not asking them to change.
Confusing?
Yeah.
Normal?
I think...BIG YEAH.
Why am I talking about boundaries?
Because when you have different voices come together - boundaries rub up on each other. Perspectives are shared. Realities are challenged.
Conflict and friction can lead to hurt.
I see this as a possibility with these talks.
I acknowledge the disease (dis-EASE of emotions) that can come from challenged boundaries or perspectives.
I want these talks to be growth potential for anyone participating within them.
UNDERSTANDING a collective is only as strong as the voices and person within it.
the move perspective - the strong the collective.
THAT BEING SAID.....
I am placing boundaries within this project as I am the one creating it.
So.....
This space (project) strives to be:
inclusive
willing to share the tough bits
respectful of differences
real conversation
non- judgmental
Accountability: help it thrive
When you are a loving person whom becomes an accountability reminder for another loving person - GROWTH happens.
Let's try and foster that.
LOGISTICS
30-60 minute interviews with me on my Instagram account (or via another video platform)
The doula whom is speaking with me picks their topic
I may not know this doula - the point of this project is to GROW
Begin the talk by making yourself a cup of tea.
Tune in to listen.
The live recording of the talk is given to the doula whom spoke.
It remains live on my instagram account for one lunar cycle.
HERE ON MY BLOG (and perhaps another platform, I am not sure as I am trying to learn of options) is where I will be uploading the video chat forever along with the other posts I will compile,
Those posts (which will be on my instagram page and also in a post here) are:
a tea recipe from the doula whom spoke
a possible book recommendation from the doula whom spoke
a quote from the doula whom spoke
Allowing this to grow.....
If this feels like ooey-gooey good to you, and you would like to support this project:
Please follow my instagram account as that is the current platform I am using for this project along with this blog.
If you would like to share your voice over a cup of tea to add your voice to the collective: please start a conversation with me.
The more conversation we have: the more growth happens.
I cannot say where this will lead.
There are many roots to this project which nurture it - I will be sharing those roots along the way.
I want to say THANK YOU for being here.
I am so excited to journey with you on this.
With gratitude,
Carolyn
I have organized the tea talks around the lunar cycles.
I am asking doulas to speak with me on the new moon and full moon.
Candid, truth speak conversations - sharing their voice.
A COLLECTIVE: disease in boundaries
I believe a true collective amplifies differences.
That can be extremely triggering.
Differences challenge persons boundaries - so let's take a few breaths and look and boundaries.
BOUNDARIES are limitless
Whaaaaaatttt?
Stay with me.
Everyone has their own boundaries. A boundary is formed from life experiences - beliefs- information absorption - and yes...a boundary is rooted in judgment - and therefore is limitless to the individual whom is building their boundaries.
Boundaries become realities as the person embodies them.
Some boundaries are physical - some are mental.
Boundaries are a constant negotiation. They can change. They can evolve.
Boundaries are incredibly hard to understand and therefore for "uphold" as a boundary itself is build in a very evolving-life-dependant-personal-experience-way.
YIKES
Boundaries are important.
Being open to understanding boundaries as confusing - can be helpful.
Respecting boundaries is a necessity.
So is: building them, voicing your own, listening to others build them, appreciating their purpose, knowing the boundaries may change and not asking them to change.
Confusing?
Yeah.
Normal?
I think...BIG YEAH.
Why am I talking about boundaries?
Because when you have different voices come together - boundaries rub up on each other. Perspectives are shared. Realities are challenged.
Conflict and friction can lead to hurt.
I see this as a possibility with these talks.
I acknowledge the disease (dis-EASE of emotions) that can come from challenged boundaries or perspectives.
I want these talks to be growth potential for anyone participating within them.
UNDERSTANDING a collective is only as strong as the voices and person within it.
the move perspective - the strong the collective.
THAT BEING SAID.....
I am placing boundaries within this project as I am the one creating it.
So.....
This space (project) strives to be:
inclusive
willing to share the tough bits
respectful of differences
real conversation
non- judgmental
Accountability: help it thrive
When you are a loving person whom becomes an accountability reminder for another loving person - GROWTH happens.
Let's try and foster that.
LOGISTICS
30-60 minute interviews with me on my Instagram account (or via another video platform)
The doula whom is speaking with me picks their topic
I may not know this doula - the point of this project is to GROW
Begin the talk by making yourself a cup of tea.
Tune in to listen.
The live recording of the talk is given to the doula whom spoke.
It remains live on my instagram account for one lunar cycle.
HERE ON MY BLOG (and perhaps another platform, I am not sure as I am trying to learn of options) is where I will be uploading the video chat forever along with the other posts I will compile,
Those posts (which will be on my instagram page and also in a post here) are:
a tea recipe from the doula whom spoke
a possible book recommendation from the doula whom spoke
a quote from the doula whom spoke
Allowing this to grow.....
If this feels like ooey-gooey good to you, and you would like to support this project:
Please follow my instagram account as that is the current platform I am using for this project along with this blog.
If you would like to share your voice over a cup of tea to add your voice to the collective: please start a conversation with me.
The more conversation we have: the more growth happens.
I cannot say where this will lead.
There are many roots to this project which nurture it - I will be sharing those roots along the way.
I want to say THANK YOU for being here.
I am so excited to journey with you on this.
With gratitude,
Carolyn
